TPT#241 - A F*ckton Of Privilege

George's male privilege has, generally, made his life easier at work, but there are some ways in which the changes haven't made his job easier. Jess' new position has also had gendery oddness, and they have noticed many more effects of privilege, both from gender and from class. But as a teacher, Jess is happy to have created a culture in their classroom that offers students the freedom to be themselves and express their orientations, identities, and other aspects of their selves, in ways that best suit them.

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TPT#240 - Dying For A Few Days

After her eye surgery, George got five calls in three days from his mother, who really should've called 911 instead of him each time. Jess should know by now to expect George's elderly and increasingly senile relatives to act like toddlers. It shouldn't come as a surprise to them when his aunt has a temper tantrum, or when his mother refuses to use her walker because "I can do it myself!", but here we are.

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TPT#239 - Tilted Flamingos

Flamingoes? Meh. Depression and transition. They are things. They affect one another. George shares his experiences. Jess pokes him. We have a conversation about depression and gender dysphoria. Can you hear George's brainfog? And what is "Gender Lite"? Or is it "GenderLight!!!"? Could we hang Gender Lights on the awning when the Christmas Lights come down?

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TPT#238 - Having A Voice Conversation Thing

George's health has been a challenge for some months now, but things are looking up. Which is good, because his insurance is changing, and it'd be a real challenge to adapt to new providers while still trying to manage that crisis.

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TPT#237 - Manning

No, not that Manning. We're verbing nouns, like "adulting" and "friending", and Ms. Manning is decidedly and intentionally not manning. George, on the other hand, totally is, and has reached that point of passing where everyone acknowledges that he is male, without consciously acknowledging anything at all. From children at a fair to colleagues at work, nobody bats an eye at treating him like "just some guy". Which is kind of awesome.

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TPT#236 - After The Police Time, But The Next Time, Before The Last Time

George has been responsible for ALL the people for some time now, elderly and juvenile alike, but Child#2 has really made extra cause for responsibility lately, and every Friday is have-a-fit day. Will he try to accuse us of abuse again? Will we be able to maintain our sanity while we help him grow out of this habit? Will he actually pull his processing out of his brainstem long enough to pull his head out of his ass? Your guess is as good as ours.

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TPT#235 - If You Want It, You Find A Way (Unlikely Activist Z, Pt. 2)

In the second part of our conversation with our friend Z, he shares his experiences discovering more about his indigenous heritage, living in an inter-racial relationship, and coming to a broader understanding of faith. We discussed various topics related to racial justice, supporting oppressed minorities, colonialism and capitalism, and all sorts of other ways in which he, and we all, can be overcomers.

Z recommends finding out more about, and if possible supporting, the following organizations/projects:
- America In Transition: http://americaintransition.org/
- Trans LifeLine: http://www.translifeline.org/
- TransLatin@ Coalition: http://www.translatinacoalition.org/
- Black Lives Matter: http://blacklivesmatter.com/

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TPT#234 - A Private Journey (Unlikely Activist Z, Pt. 1)

Our long-time friend Z is an FtM activist and long-time advocate for the trans community, the LGBTQIA+ faith community, and communities of color. He appears in the series America In Transition, currently in development. (You should go support this amazing project at americaintransition.org!) In our recent discussion, he recounts his path toward becoming an unlikely activist. Childhood trauma, military service, DADT, living with PTSD, and learning to trust his Spirit, all led him to become the man he is today.

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TPT#233 - Is It Because I'm Queer?

Jess' new job is amazing, so long as they don't check their email. Entitled parents of entitled children are entitled, and it's driving Jess a little bonkers. George is back to working full time too, and some of the ladies have noticed that he's lost weight. But being sick for four months solid will do that to a person.

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TPT#232 - Standards Of Care

George has a respiratory infection, the kids are getting ready for back-to-school, and Child#2 decided he'd try to get out of trouble by getting Jess in trouble.

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TPT#231x - Upcoming Changes

Announcing a scheduling change... TransPanTastic will be moving to a biweekly release format, and our next full episode will be released next week.

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TPT#231 - Trying Not To Talk Awkwardly

George had a dream. Social isolation and awkwardness were not the dream he wanted. But they got us thinking about various types of social isolation that he has encountered as an introvert, as a trans guy, as a geek, as a convention attendee, as a cis-passing guy, and as all of those things at once.

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TPT#230 - The Lights Are On But Nobody's Home

George's elderly aunt (who insists that she doesn't have memory problems) has been claiming for months that "they'll send me to the funny farm" for her behaviour. Eventually it became self-fulfilling prophecy. Add his neurotic sister, his elderly mother, and Child#2 into the mix, and George's recovery and attempts to return to work aren't going as smoothly as we'd hoped. But we should know better, by now, than to expect anything to ever go smoothly around here. Thankfully, passing as male improves his chances of having his own health needs considered important by those around him, who are still expecting him to manage everyone else, as life keeps happening and he keeps being the most functional person in the room.

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TPT#229 - My P*nis Makes Me Smarter Than You

We've annually chronicled Jess' struggles to find a job that will get them out of elementary and back into working with older students. This year was another trip on the merry-go-round, with popcorn and dominoes thrown in for good measure. Will they escape kindergarten this year?

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TPT#228 - Eight Dollar Man-Girdle

George is still recovering from surgery, but the world doesn't quit relying on him while he's down. Child#2 is supposed to be visiting with his other mom, but we're noticing a pattern in the failure rate of those visits. When it comes time to rescue the kid, everyone else is experiencing their own increased failure to function, so it's on us to save the day again.

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TPT#227 - Little Plaid Dress

There are many aspects of our relationship that are heterogenous. We are a mixed-faith couple, mixed-orientation, and we also come from different generations. Being raised in distinctly different times caused us distinctly different experiences with regards to technology, culture, and gender. Dysphoria was more distinctly gendered for George, in a time when everything was much more gendered, while Jess' more flexible "modern" upbringing didn't highlight the genderedness of their awkwardness.

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TPT#226 - Insect Carcasses

George's recovery is going as well as can be expected, when everyone still expects him to manage them. Child#2 is having an especially difficult time managing himself, and the other adults who have charge of him are getting a run for their money. From being suspended the last week of school, to breaking furniture, to pestering his other caregivers for his video game, he just can't give any of us a break!

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TPT#225 - Boom, Dysphoria!

George's surgery went better than it could have. Both the pre-admit appointment and the hospital stay went well, and nobody had a visible reaction to his questions about the effect of his trans status on his upcoming surgery. Recovery is a challenge, but nowhere near as hard as it could have been. Nonetheless, dysphoria has a way of finding us, even when things are going well.

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TPT#224 - Go In There And Be Me (Cousin Vinnie Returns, Pt. 2)

The intersection of lesbian parenting and multi-cultural family life, highlights Vinnie's experiences with gender and discrimination, and we discuss how George's transition has affected his parenting interactions. Returning to their experiences as a non-transitioning female-assigned person in a male-dominated field, Vinnie clarifies a few points and we all discuss our experiences of gender in the workplace. Rambly trans conversation continues!

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TPT#223 - It Must Be Something Wrong With You (Cousin Vinnie Returns, Pt. 1)

Our first ever guest, from Ep#95 and Ep#96, has come back to visit! We mentioned, then, how their new car affected their frequency of traffic stops, but they have since observed the effect of various other drivers in their old truck. Following up on George and Jess' discussion of health care challenges, Vinnie contribues their doctor experiences to our discussion. Then we return to a frequent discussion topic, sexism in the workplace. Long rambly conversation commence!

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TPT#222 - Awareness Of My Vulnerability

As George recovers from his last hospital stay and prepares for his upcoming surgery, he recalls his concerns about his gender and how others will be affected by it. He also expresses a sense of "nakedness" from the lack of bodily self-determination. Then he realizes, all those types of discomfort are part of dysphoria! Jess also recalls experiencing dysphoria that they didn't realize was dysphoria, although their dysphoria is often more social, while George's was more physical. How do we cope with, or work around, discomfort with our respective genders? That's a skill that we've both got a pretty good handle on, but still requires effort at times.

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TPT#221 - Flip-Off Dance

When George's intestines try to kill him, when Child#3 is a stinky hoarder, when Child#2 has bizarrely unrealistic expectations of us, it's good to be able to use some coping humor. George's ability to cope with strong emotion has increased over his time on HRT, although he still finds his patience has a tendency to disappear abruptly.

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TPT#220x - Fourth Manniversary Retrospective (Entire Conversation With Clips)

The full version of the last three episodes, with a new outtake from Episode 1!

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0:00:23 - 0:36:26
TPT#218 - Getting Your Hands On The Substance

On George's fourth manniversary we reminisce about his transgender journey, from the earliest days of his first decision to transition, to the difficulty he had in accessing HRT, and the joy of finally getting the right amount of testosterone in his body. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 0:02:29 - Episode 1: making the decision to transition
• - 0:04:05 - Episode 1: impatience with access to transition
• - 0:09:22 - Episode 7: George's "trans narrative"
• - 0:18:03 - Episode 4: insurance and healthcare access
• - 0:27:20 - Episode 13: the joy of starting HRT

0:36:26 - 1:15:54
TPT#219 - The Royal "We"

Continuing our fourth manniversary trans-in-review, once George finally got HRT started, his body began changing. Once the changes became noticable, it was time to start coming out as male. Coming out to our kids and family was no problem. Working for the government, however, and especially in a small town, meant that nothing could be easy and especially not coming out. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 0:37:18 - Episode 25: early changes on testosterone
• - 0:45:10 - Episode 20: coming out to the kids
• - 0:53:26 - Episode 28: trying to prepare for coming out at work
• - 1:04:25 - Episode 29: finally getting to come out at work

The letter we referenced in Ep29 is at transpantastic.net/2013/09/the-work-letter.html.


1:15:54 - 1:48:35
TPT#220 - Looking Right At Me

In our final installment of George's fourth manniversary reminiscings, we discuss some of the things that are better for George, now that he's regularly percieved as the man he is. From men's rooms and STPs, to clothes and how they fit, to the way he's treated in our culture, life is better for him now than it's ever been. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 1:16:12 - Episode 56: the men's room report
• - 1:18:51 - Episode 66: packing and STPs
• - 1:22:51 - Episode 116: finding clothes that fit
• - 1:26:18 - Episode 138: self-determination, regardless of clothes
• - 1:37:35 - Episode 120: "safety math" & cultural perceptions
• - 1:42:04 - Episode 45: social perception, people are weird
• - 1:44:14 - Episode 89: being treated differently as a man

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TPT#220 - Looking Right At Me (4-Year Transition Retrospective, Pt. 3)

In our final installment of George's fourth manniversary reminiscings, we discuss some of the things that are better for George, now that he's regularly percieved as the man he is. From men's rooms and STPs, to clothes and how they fit, to the way he's treated in our culture, life is better for him now than it's ever been. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 01:06 - Episode 56: the men's room report
• - 03:45 - Episode 66: packing and STPs
• - 07:45 - Episode 116: finding clothes that fit
• - 11:11 - Episode 138: self-determination, regardless of clothes
• - 22:30 - Episode 120: "safety math" & cultural perceptions
• - 26:59 - Episode 45: social perception, people are weird
• - 29:08 - Episode 89: being treated differently as a man

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TPT#219 - The Royal "We" (4-Year Transition Retrospective, Pt. 2)

Continuing our fourth manniversary trans-in-review, once George finally got HRT started, his body began changing. Once the changes became noticable, it was time to start coming out as male. Coming out to our kids and family was no problem. Working for the government, however, and especially in a small town, meant that nothing could be easy and especially not coming out. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 01:42 - Episode 25: early changes on testosterone
• - 09:37 - Episode 20: coming out to the kids
• - 17:54 - Episode 28: trying to prepare for coming out at work
• - 28:55 - Episode 29: finally getting to come out at work

The letter we referenced in Ep29 is at transpantastic.net/2013/09/the-work-letter.html.

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TPT#218 - Getting Your Hands On The Substance (4-Year Transition Retrospective, Pt. 1)

On George's fourth manniversary we reminisce about his transgender journey, from the earliest days of his first decision to transition, to the difficulty he had in accessing HRT, and the joy of finally getting the right amount of testosterone in his body. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 02:29 - Episode 1: making the decision to transition
• - 04:05 - Episode 1: impatience with access to transition
• - 09:22 - Episode 7: George's "trans narrative"
• - 18:03 - Episode 4: insurance and healthcare access
• - 27:20 - Episode 13: the joy of starting HRT

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TPT#217 - Pee Into The Hat

Health care is a complicated subject, and getting health care as a transgender person can be even more so. Is the doctor choosing not to touch your body because she's bigoted, or just inept? Is a nurse being snotty because he's tired after a long shift, or because he took a look at your records? As George ages, health care interactions are going to become more frequent, and it's important that his providers are all capable and competent to work with populations of all genders. The good news is, his intestines tried to kill him just in time to have a day off for the mad rush on Gallifrey One hotel reservations!

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TPT#216 - Ground Zero

We got Child#0 to sit down with us at the mic, and we discussed their process of discovering their identity as agender. Egg mode made a traumatic childhood more traumatic, but George and his then wife's welcoming home helped them begin to recover. They are still recovering, and as they come to a larger understanding of human gender, the recognition that "there are others like me and I'm not just broken" is something that many of us can identify with. George took a binary backseat for most of the conversation, as the genderqueer folks discussed their identities and experiences.

Dara Hoffman-Fox's book is currently being reissued by a new publisher and is available for preorder at DiscoverYourGenderIdentity.com.

Ivan Coyote has written and performed a number of amazing pieces on the nature of gender and the way it is percieved by western culture, but the ones we referenced today are at dailyxtra.com/vancouver/dear-lady-in-the-womens-washroom-4771 and slate.com/blogs/outward/2014/04/11/transgender_in_public_bathrooms_why_does_our_safety_always_come_second.html.

We used the problematic terms "fag" and "faggy" as shorthand for a stereotype of an effeminate gay male. We understand that as a reclamation term it is generally expected to be used only by members of a minority of which we may not be percieved to be a part. For a fuller explanation of cultural expectations around reappropriation of slurs, check out a great piece by the late Matt Kailey at mattkailey.wordpress.com/2014/02/17/ask-matt-three-criteria-for-reclaiming-harmful-language. We chose to retain this term in today's conversation because it exemplifies the conflation of gender and orientation that is common in western culture and against which we still struggle in our own processing.

The pictures Jess showed Child#0 of presentations they identify with are:



and



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TPT#215 - Fill In The Rest Of The Letters

George is a gnome, and heteronormativity is weird AF. The human brain has a propensity to fill in gaps in available knowledge with inferences based on prior experience. We categorize things and synthesize ideas to assign meaning to things we don't fully understand. But when someone's entire experience is comprised of only one type of experience, they may apply inaccurate preconceptions to those of us whose existence has been primarily outside of a majority or mainstream.

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TPT#214 - Mill Salsa

TSA PreCheck is a great benefit to people who transition. We highly recommend it, if it's available to you. It made a lot of our recent travel less stressful, as has George's male presentation.

Child#0 is a great benefit to our sanity as we deal with nonsense caused by both the nine-year-old toddler and the seventy-year-old toddlers. And we finally get them onto the mic! (We refer to Child#0 as "her" in this, and a couple more future episodes, but it is worth noting that they have, since the time of recording, expressed an identification with the pronoun "they".) When Child#2 insists on alternative facts, reacting against routine and structure after having had none, subconsciously desiring that sense of safety in boundaries that children often seek through testing and pushing their parents' limits, it's great to have Child#0 as another sane adult with whom to check our reality.

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TPT#213 - I Just Gayed So Hard

When We Rise is a docudrama miniseries, in four double-episodes, that highlights specific leaders in, and key moments of, the American historical struggle for LGBTQIA+ equality. After watching it, we reminisced about our own experiences as we lived through many of the events that were explored in the show, and how George's experiences with the Gay and Lesbian communities in his young adulthood were shaped by his gender, even in egg mode.

You can watch When We Rise at http://abc.go.com/shows/when-we-rise.

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TPT#212 - George's Ambulance Service

The lots-o-travel month has come to an end, and George thought he could finally get back to being productive at work. But he was wrong. Thankfully, his male privilege made life easier when trying to help problem-solve for a family member who was caught driving down the highway in the wrong direction!

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TPT#211 - Interrupting My Moment Of Sanity

When Child#2 went to stay with his mother at Christmas break, we knew there was a possibility that he would be back. We knew that his mother's family were rich, entitled, control freaks. We knew he was a bigger challenge than they were expecting. That doesn't change our disappointment that he won't get the care he was promised. Happy spring break, friends!

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TPT#210 - The Acetate Stuck To My Sandpaper

That new dick we mentioned a couple weeks back? Yeah, George tried it. Medical adhesive mishaps and prosthetic penis shenanigans ensued. Fun was had. And by fun, we mean awkwardness and discomfort.

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TPT#209 - Old Man Swears

Child#2's other mom has asked for him to move with her out of state, and we have no good reason to refuse. But the adventures of raising our most challenging child don't stop just because he's a couple hundred miles away. George went to visit him back before we went to Gallifrey One, and we recap the challenges up to the time he returned, from dealing with controlling ex-in-laws, to informing the kids of the recent death in our chosen family.

Various versions of the Family Circle comic "map" George refers to can be found at http://familycircus.com/comic_tag/billys-map/.

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TPT#208 - Let's Do This And See What Happens!

George's old-guy problems haven't quit, although we get more gendery observations on them. He observes the self-segregation of people by gender, considering his place in one of the two groups that folks tend to segregate themselves into. People who've known George for a long time, but haven't seen him in a while, react to the "effectiveness" of his transition. We consider the struggles of dressing formally by gender.

Oh, and did we mention that George got a new dick? Sooner or later we'll figure out how to attach it!

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TPT#207 - Gallifrey Once More

In case you missed it on our social media, we attended Gallifrey One again this year. After the usual three-ring-circus known as "the logistics of leaving our responsibilities behind", we brought pronoun ribbons (pronounribbons.org) and were lucky enough to find some folks to pass them out on our behalf. Then we went on about our merry con-going, to encounter various awkward situations, and as most transfolk have occasion to do, George overthinks the difference between gendery awkwardness and regular awkwardness.

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TPT#206 - A Series Of Unfortunate Events

At the time of recording, George was supposed to be preparing to visit Child#2 at his mother's house, out of state. But emergency rooms kept happening. Thankfully, not for him this time. We consider, for a moment, the oddities of being treated as male in these situations, how it is different from his prior treatment, and then return to managing the situations.

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TPT#205 - Old Guy Problems

George's body has seemed to age a little more rapidly in the past few years, and while we're not sure whether that's a result of HRT, or stress, or environment, or a little of each, the result is the same. He weighs less, but his pants are tighter. His back and neck pain have increased. And the process of finding a mattress that will better support his aging back has been a long one.

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TPT#204 - Everybody Needs To Be Thinking

We attended the women's march solidarity event for our region, and it was pretty cool. George is a feminist, a TransDad, and a man who was perceived as female for decades, all of which make him a heck of a feminist father. But how to act on that feminism? How does one act as an ally and accomplice in movements for the rights of the oppressed, when one is a member of the dominant (and historically oppressive) culture?

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TPT#203 - Women Do It Better

George's insurance plan rolled over at the new year, and he needed to re-authorize a prescription. Child#2's prescriptions may not be covered for some time until his new insurance is effective in his new state. And Republicans in congress don't care who gets insurance or not, so long as they get to enforce their expectations and worldview. But no matter what is wrong, we know that some woman, somewhere, will be competent to take care of it.

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TPT#202 - I'm Tired And I'll Do This Later! (Gender Rebels, Pt. 2)

We continue our conversation with the Gender Rebels this week, Kath and Faith discuss their experiences travelling before and after transition, and we observe the nature of the transition workload. So many things to do, and it's great that they all get to happen, but damn, it's a lot of work!

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TPT#201 - Gender Gymnastics (Gender Rebels, Pt. 1)

We can has guests?! Sweet! Today we sat down with the amazing ladies of the Gender Rebels podcast. Two transitioning people and their two partners swap stories of, among other things, the mental flexibility required to manage various stages of "outage".

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TPT#200 - And A Sex Toy Infomercial At The Hospital

♪♫ On the adjusted date of Christmas, the universe gave to me: twelve-hour workdays, eight forgotten presents, five diabetic crashes, two cases of norovirus, and a sex toy infomercial at the hospital! ♪♫

As usual, we celebrated Christmas on a day that was not 25 December, but as not-usual it went fairly smoothly. The fun didn't start until later, but when it did, George's status as male made his mother's care easier to manage, and his trans status made his own hospital visit slightly more confusing.

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